TABLE
OF CONTENT
INTRODUCTION
Gods
view on marriage
The
hope of biblical marriage
BIBLICAL MODEL FOR
MARRIAGE
God
has ordained marriage
God
has established the character of marriage
God
has made the marriage relationship basic to society
God
has designed some to receive the blessing of remaining single
MARRIAGE IS A SEXUALLY INTIMATE AND PASSIONATE
RELATIONSHIP
MARITAL CONFLICT
CONCLUSION
BIBLIOGRAPHY
INTRODUCTION
The
biblical principle of marriage is a must for every Christian life, since God
instituted and honour marriage. Family without biblical principle would be like
a society without law, rules and regulation. Therefore here in this assignment one
can realize the need of biblical foundation in marriage. This research is
divided into three sessions. They are as follow:
God
intends an expect marriage to be a life time commitment between a man and
women, based on the Biblical love. The relationship between Jesus and his
church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife
ought to follow in their relationship with each other (ecc.9:9, Mal.2: 14;
Matt.19:3-6;I cor,13:4-8).
While
there are only a few passages in God’s word that specifically address the
marriage relationship, the provide all that is necessary to understand God’s
exalted view of marriage.
Gods view on marriage
Marriage
is neither a social convenience nor simply an invention for living together. It
is ordained by God to be a covenant of companionship and mutual complement (Gen
2:18, 22-25; I Cor 7:10-11), and it is meant to keep you set apart in your
physical relationship for one another (I Cor 7:2-5).
The
marriage relationship is designed to be one of unity and one- flesh permanency
(Gen 2:24; Eph 5:31) that reflect the loving relationship between Christ and
His church (Eph 5:21-23)[1]
The hope of biblical
marriage
If
a person get married, God’s word instructs he or she is to love their spouse
(Eph 5:25); and, if a person believer in Jesus Christ, you have already been
enabled to do so (Rom 5:5). Even if their spouse never practices biblical love,
the person can still beat peace (ps 119:165) and can do their part to foster
harmony in their home (I Peter 3:8-9). Remember that you are not responsible to
change others (phi.1:6), but your responsibility to examine yourselves
continually in a biblical manner (matt.7:1-5).
As
you continue to be a biblical servant and be a blessing to your spouse
(phi.2:3-4),you can be assured that God will work all things for good in your
relationship with your spouse. No one, not even an unbelieving or unloving are
rebellious spouse, can prevent it (Rom.8:28-29)[2]
BIBLICAL MODEL FOR
MARRIAGE
God has ordained
marriage
When
the person marries, the people commit themselves in a covenant before God to a
life time of companionship with your spouse (pro 2; 11-19).
Marriage
relationship with spouse is to be patterned after the relationship of the lord
Jesus Christ and His Church (Eph 5:21-33).[3]
God has established the
character of marriage
Biblical
love for your spouse is to be based on based on God ‘s love for you I John
4:7-11) and must be practiced out of a desire to please the Lord (Col 1:9-12,
3:17).
Marriage
is to be a one-flesh relationship, not only physically but also in mind and purpose
(Eph 5:31).
In
God’s sight, marriage partners are equal in value (I Cor 11:11-12) but have and
same judgment (Phil 2:1-7).
Marriage
partners are to leave the parent-child relationship with their own respective
parents in order to cleave with one another (Matt 19:5; Eph 5:31).
Marriage
is to be undefiled and is to be held in honour by all (Heb 13:4).[4]
God has made the
marriage relationship basic to society
Marriage
is designed to give society stability in relationship and responsibilities (Eph
5:21-33).
Marriage
is designed to give the necessary stability for bearing and up children (Gen
1:28).[5]
A
biblical marriage relationship is designed to be a criterion for the evaluation
of the maturity and development of potential elders in a church (Titus 1:5-6,2:3-5)
Marriage is integral to
the life of a local church (I Tim 3:2; Tit 1:5-6)[6]
God has designed some
to receive the blessing of remaining single
If
you are single, you have a great opportunity for ministry in the life of a
church family, since you do not have do not have the responsibilities or
potential distractions of married people (I Cor 7:32-35).[7]
God
has given singleness as a gift to some. He desires those who are presently
single to be content and to bless others with their time, material goods, and
energy, making the most of every opportunity to serve (Eph 5:16; Ph 4:11-13, 19).[8]
Marriage is a sexually intimate and passionate relationship.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.( Genesis 2: 25)
Before we address this Biblical truth about marriage, some spouses avoid this topic altogether and do not discuss intimacy and passion with anyone (including their spouses). With all due respect to everyone's privacy, please skip to the next section if this topic offends you. Please continue reading to understand what the Bible has to say about passion, which is different from lust.
“Until the day comes that you are totally ravished with your wife, you have not fallen in love with her. Until the day comes that you cannot even imagine how another woman could satisfy you like your wife does, you have not yet obeyed the commandment to love your wife like the Lord loves us all.”
18: Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19: Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. Proverbs 5: 18-19
Before we address this Biblical truth about marriage, some spouses avoid this topic altogether and do not discuss intimacy and passion with anyone (including their spouses). With all due respect to everyone's privacy, please skip to the next section if this topic offends you. Please continue reading to understand what the Bible has to say about passion, which is different from lust.
“Until the day comes that you are totally ravished with your wife, you have not fallen in love with her. Until the day comes that you cannot even imagine how another woman could satisfy you like your wife does, you have not yet obeyed the commandment to love your wife like the Lord loves us all.”
18: Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19: Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. Proverbs 5: 18-19
There is a world of difference between lust and passion. Lust is sin and
a loss of self-control; passion is a fire that forms the very metal of
marriage. Men are highly visual and imaginative creatures when it comes to
sex. They perceive a direct link in their sexual energy with the very energy of
life.
Wives like to have sex in marriage also, but not like a man. Wives view
marital sex differently. What wives really want in marital sex is romance and
passion.
A Biblical marriage is a sexually intimate and passionate relationship.
The satisfaction, fulfillment, joy and pleasure are part of God's plan for the
marriage. You don't have to be an expert at the very beginning of the marriage.
Many believe that the very learning experience of sexual intimacy is part of
the lifetime of joy in marriage. Marital sexuality is a
life-changing-experience and part of the changing-of-life-experience.[9]
MARITAL CONFLICTS
Many
conflicts in a marriage result from living to please self instead of living to
please the Lord. These conflicts can be resolved and are actually opportunities
for spiritual growth when death with in a biblical manner (II Cor 4:7-10).
1.
When living to please self, each spouse
will blame the other for problems and difficulties even though booth are sinning
(Gen 3:12-13; Jem 4:1).
2.
When a husband and wife live to please
themselves, they often try to solve marital conflicts man’s way by:
compromising biblical principles to solve conflicts; seeking to find trade-offs
and bargains in order to get their own way; basing decisions and actions on the
world’s erroneous of having a good self-esteem or self- image; trying to find
someone “more compatible;”Immersing themselves in work, children, travel,
sports, alcohol, drugs, friends, etc.
3.
God desires that problems in marriages
be solved for the good of each spouse, as each seeks to please the Lord within
the marriage relationship (II Tim 3:16-17; Heb4:12). God commands a believing
spouse to love Him (Matt 22:37-38) and to obey his word (Lu 6:46-49).
As a believer esteems
his spouse as more important than himself (Phi 2:3-4),he will face and deal
with all difficulties in a manner that
pleases the Lord (I Pet 4:1-2).This leads to an increasing oneness of
mind and purpose as both spouses receive encouragement from Jesus Christ (Phil
2:1-2).
4.
Spouses are to be drawing closer to god,
especially during times of conflict.
As both believing spouses
individually draw closer to God the father through the Lord Jesus Christ (Heb
4:14-16). Even when only one spouse draws closer to God, it is the best hope of
drawing the other spouse to the Lord (I Cor 7:16;I Pet 3:1).[10]
CONCLUSION
The Bible has much to say about marriage and our parents are responsible
for most of our teaching to be good husbands and wives. However, throw this
paper I understood, marriage is God’s plane and God intends and expects
marriage to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the
principles of biblical love.
Being wise and knowledgeable are good things but developing the ability
to understand, especially to understand your spouse, is consistent with being
intimate, knowing God, follow the biblical principles in marriage, and having a
well established house called a home.
[1] John Broger, Self-Confrontation: A Manual for In-Depth Biblical Discipleship,(California:
Biblical Counseling Foundation,1991),p.245.
[2] Dr.Dobson,
Answer Your Questions About Marriage and Sexuality, (Wheaton: Tyndale House
Publishers Inc, 1982), Pp., 10-15.
[3] Charls R.swendoll,strike the original match,(Minneapolis
world wide publication,1980),P.23.
[4] John
Broger, Self-Confrontation: A Manual for
In-Depth Biblical Discipleship,P.247.
[5]
John Broger, Self-Confrontation: A Manual
for In-Depth Biblical Discipleship, Pp.246-247.
[7] John
Broger, Self-Confrontation: A Manual for
In-Depth Biblical Discipleship, P.247.
[9] O.E
Feucht, Family Relationships and Church, (Chicago:
Concordia Publisher House, 1970), Pp., 25-40.
[10]
El
Worthington Jr., Christian Marital
Counselling,(Secunderabad: OM Book Andrapradesh, 2005), Pp., 39-50.
BIBLIOGRAPHY
Charls R. Swendoll.
strike the original match. Minneapolis
worldwide publication, 1980.
Cooper,Darrian B. You can be the Wife of A Happy Husband. Wheaton: division of SP
Publishing Inc, 1974.
Dr. Dobson. Answer Your Questions About Marriage and Sexuality. Wheaton: Tyndale House
Publishers Inc, 1982.
El
Worthington Jr. Christian Marital
Counselling. Secunderabad: OM Book Andrapradesh, 2005.
John Broger. Self-Confrontation: A Manual for In-Depth Biblical Discipleship. California:
Biblical Counseling Foundation,1991.
O.E Feucht Family Relationships and Church. Chicago:
Concordia Publisher House, 1970.
Tim Lahaye, How
to be Happy Through Married. England: Tyndale House Publisher, 1977.
BY:SAMUEL GP
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